Lots of families want to be the perfect family. But we all know that no one is perfect, so the dream of a perfect family isn't possible to have. Some families even try really hard to hide the fact that they aren't perfect from everyone around them because they are too scared to let anyone know that their family's having problems. We think we are doing the right thing by hiding and lying; but we aren't. I don't really know if it makes things worse or not, but it doesn't make them better!
Sometimes a family member just drops off the face of the earth. All the family says is they are away “finding themselves.” But everyone knows that's just a nice way to say they “went off the deep end” and they just don't want you to know that their family isn't perfect. But maybe if that family just said what was going on, they could get some help or even just have someone to talk to. Someone they wouldn't have to hide from everytime they didn't want to be asked about how the was doing family! If this were you, you could actually tell this person what was truly going on.
We are imperfect people because of sin. Why would we even think that our family is going to be prefect? It doesn't make any sense to me. We are full of sin and we can't change that on our own, apart from God’s grace. And apart from God’s grace, no one’s family can change, either.